The Comparison Journey is Yours to Grow Through
You know that feeling when you are starting on a new goal and you see someone else in a similar scenario having much more success than you? Maybe it causes you to feel hopeless, defeated, like giving up or just overall frustrated with your journey of comparison.
In that moment, consider that you are taking your beginning and comparing it to someone else’s middle. Or, you are taking your Chapter 5 and comparing it to someone else’s Chapter 25. The truth is, we never do know. This happens especially often in network marketing.
This is something that many of us do.
And when you’re beginning a new goal, it can be easy to look at others and compare yourself to them. People often do it to determine how well they are doing in business and base their personal value on that. However, what happens is you rob yourself of your own joy along the way.
‘Comparison is the thief of Joy’ – Theodore Roosevelt
Just because we do things differently than others, doesn’t mean we are doing it wrong. Everyone plays their life cards differently, and your journey will never be the exact same as someone else’s. And you know what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Your journey is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Whether it be in business, personal or otherwise if you are putting in the necessary commitment, dedication and skills into then task at hand — you will get there. And guess what?
The time is going to pass anyways, so why are we always in such a rush?
Apples to Apples and Oranges to Oranges
When we compare ourselves to others, we’re comparing the best of someone else to the worst of ourselves.
Because other network marketers aren’t readily sharing their pitfalls and epic fails with us. They’re sharing their business highlight reel. Online especially, you are only seeing what people want you to see.
If you’re just starting out, or going through a slower period in your business, it’s unfair for you to compare yourself to others in your industry who are thriving. You don’t know what their journey has been or how they’ve gotten to this point. You are seeing the shine not the grind.
Many business owners have started previous businesses and adjusted more times than they can count before finding success. Instead of comparing yourself to someone else, compare yourself to yourself. Don’t just make it about income either. Take note of everything you’ve achieved.
Take Action: Think about the last 2 to 5 years. What have you learned? How have you grown? What have you attained?
Why do we Compare Ourselves to Others Anyways?
The simple answer is, we just do. We are conditioned from a very young age to believe that success looks a certain way. And when we are not that image or what it is portrayed to be, we compare. Now please know this is prevalent across just about every human trait and/or behavior. It can be physical, emotional, professional, spiritual, and the list goes on.
So what we want to do is provide you with a list of things that you can do instead of comparing yourself to others. We would encourage you to adopt which ones make the most sense for you and apply them immediately.
6 Things you can do Instead of the Getting Caught up in the Comparison Trap
Instead of looking at someone’s life and saying to yourself things like ‘I wish I …’, adjust your way of thinking and speaking to ‘I am so grateful for…’. Much of this activity is shifting what others have and what you have too! Whereas before, it was a thought of they have and I don’t. Although this may seem a little basic and may even feel silly at first, practicing gratitude is powerful.
Focus on your own Grass.
Have you heard the saying that goes something along the lines of ‘if you want green grass pay attention to your own?’. Or, ‘the grass isn’t always greener’ … You know the ones. This relates to focus. If we spent as much time focusing and comparing ourselves to others as we do on our own ‘grass’, we would be in a much different place. In fact, the room for comparison would be greatly diminished.
Stop ‘Shoulding’ Yourself.
Self-talk is far more crucial than we realize. Instead of things like; ‘I should have done this, I should have joined here, I should have called Jane …’ etc. use the word want. Shifting the word should to want will exponentially help you gain a better perspective on what needs to be done and implementing the strategy needed to make it happen.
Accept Where you are.
This can be a tough one. Now, we are not suggesting you become complacent in where you are. We always want you to strive for better and bigger. What this means instead is accept that you are at a place in your journey that you are meant to be in. For whatever reason, good or bad, you find yourself here. Once we learn to accept what is in our present will help us work towards our future. Otherwise, we waste precious time on the past, what could have been or should have been instead of where we’re going.
Create an Alliance with Yourself.
That inner voice can be a real bully sometimes. So, have a conversation with yourself that you will not let it creep in. That you will do whatever you can to silence that negative Nancy inside there. You need to become your strongest ally – personal development can be a huge asset in this space.
Be Fuelled with Inspiration instead of Comparison.
Feeling defeated because of that leader you continuously see on stage? Perhaps you are tired of seeing everyone else advance before you? Well, use that for inspiration instead of comparison. Take the approach that they are in fact showing you what is possible. Get around them, ask questions, model their good habits … Be inspired by their success instead of crippling yourself with it.
Overall, the act of comparison can be a hard habit to break, but it’s one you should spend time working on. Life feels much lighter when you’re concentrating on your own growth, goals, journey and values instead of someone else’s. We Promise.
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